Real Talk With Loli Events: Part 1

So you’re planning a wedding or thinking about it at least, and you don’t know where to start or even know how to. Don’t worry, we’ve been there, and we made a business out of our experience, so stick with us, as we brought in an expert to help. We wanted to offer real-life, approachable council based on what brides really need. You asked, we answered.

We sat down with our amazing friend and fellow girl boss, Lauren, owner of Loli Events to talk about the nitty-gritty of wedding planning, and how best to organize it all. In part 1, we will deep-dive into how the wedding planning industry has shifted, what should be first on your to-do list, and where to find inspiration.

 
Catering: Marlow Events | Venue: The Castle | Photo: Heather Waraksa | Chairs: Rent Patina | Linen: Nuage | Tabletop Rentals: Eleven36 | Cocktail: Jesse Blades and Plant People | Stationery: Venamour | Flowers: Saiupa | Music: DJ Inbetween

Catering: Marlow Events | Venue: The Castle | Photo: Heather Waraksa | Chairs: Rent Patina | Linen: Nuage | Tabletop Rentals: Eleven36 | Cocktail: Jesse Blades and Plant People | Stationery: Venamour | Flowers: Saiupa | Music: DJ Inbetween

 

Hey Lauren, thanks for taking the time to join us, we’re so excited about this feature. Let’s get right to it! You’ve been doing this for a while now so you must’ve seen trends change, and traditions get altered. How are today’s brides different from the brides of five years ago?

“This is going to be fun, thanks for asking me over. Today’s brides are starting to break out of what is expected from a wedding. Many more couples are paying for the wedding themselves, so they don’t have the pressure of pleasing Mom & Dad, etc. They are planning weddings to highlight the experiences and moments that are most important to them (not because you should do it a certain way). For example, we have seen more and more couples walk down the aisle together and weddings where really great pizza is what is being served for dinner, (versus a 2 hour, 4-course meal). Creating something special for the guests is on top of the list, and we are seeing smaller, more intimate weddings. These brides are also savvier and wiser than ever before because of all the content creation tools that are available to them. ”

What’s the first thing a couple should do, above all else?

“I can’t stress this enough, but the first thing is to have that honest, heartfelt conversation with your partner. Dig deep as you define what you want your wedding to be like or feel like. For example, if you get anxious around big crowds, then having a smaller number of guests should be on your must-have list. Then turn to the budget and think about where the money is coming from and what the total amount is. Finally, match this back to your takeaways from your heartfelt conversation to prioritize and set realistic expectations for all the pieces of the wedding. You may have to compromise on a few things, in order to get the big things you want. Set an intention from the start, anything that doesn’t resonate with the intention should not be part of the wedding.”

 
Catering: Marlow Events | Venue: The Castle | Photo: Heather Waraksa | Chairs: Rent Patina | Linen: Nuage | Tabletop Rentals: Eleven36 | Cocktail: Jesse Blades and Plant People | Stationery: Venamour | Flowers: Saiupa | Music: DJ Inbetween

Catering: Marlow Events | Venue: The Castle | Photo: Heather Waraksa | Chairs: Rent Patina | Linen: Nuage | Tabletop Rentals: Eleven36 | Cocktail: Jesse Blades and Plant People | Stationery: Venamour | Flowers: Saiupa | Music: DJ Inbetween

 

Please tell us, other than Pinterest, where else can inspiration be found?

“Beware of the social media black hole! You will in and it’ll be a struggle to get out! A better approach is to first think about your own life and what gets you both excited. Is it a trip that you took, a piece of art, or the design of a hotel? Do a bit of brainstorming around the moments you’ve shared before you get distracted by blogs and Pinterest! I often advise couples to look outside of weddings. Sometimes the best, most unique inspiration will come from something that is not wedding related at all, like a design magazine. Look for inspiration EVERYWHERE.”

Okay, so you’re set on a theme or even a venue, are there any tools couples can use to help streamline the process of planning and execution?

“Zola is a well-thought-out tool that is very easy to use and centralizes many things that you need - from the website to the registry, to even the invitation. Aisle Planner is another great tool if you don’t have, or want a planner)! One simple tip I also offer is to just create an organized folder in Google Drive and use the Sheets and Docs function to keep track of your budget, guest lists, RSVPs, vendors, etc. It makes it so much easier if you are able to keep everything in one place, plus Google Drive is really easy to share with those who are helping.”

Any wedding planning no-no’s that everyone should be aware of?

“Don’t send out ‘save the dates’ to the ‘maybes’ on your guest list! It is hard to take those back, and it will be super awkward to not send invitations afterward. The guest count is what drives the cost of the wedding (as much as $1,500 per person in some cases), so KonMari your guest list and leave out anyone (if you can) who doesn’t spark joy. (Sorry, I had to say that, I couldn’t resist.) By having a smaller headcount, you are also able to spend more quality time with every person.”

Venue & Catering: Blue Hill at Stone Barns | Band: Rhythm Collective from Elan Artists | Florals: Stone Kelly |  Rentals: Stone Kelly | Lighting: Pegasus | Beauty: Facetime Beauty | Dress: Vera Wang | Stationery: Venamour  Photography: Heather Waraksa | Videography: Reuben (Ira Lippke)

Venue & Catering: Blue Hill at Stone Barns | Band: Rhythm Collective from Elan Artists | Florals: Stone Kelly |

Rentals: Stone Kelly | Lighting: Pegasus | Beauty: Facetime Beauty | Dress: Vera Wang | Stationery: Venamour

Photography: Heather Waraksa | Videography: Reuben (Ira Lippke)

If you’re in search of a one-of-a-kind wedding planner, contact Lauren and her team at Loli Events. Still looking for a dress for your special day? Book yourself in here to shop a range of designer dresses from the comfort of our Manhattan showroom.