What to do if you hate your wedding dress…

CREDIT: Fabiana Skubic

CREDIT: Fabiana Skubic

Firstly, we'd like you to take a big, deep breath, ahhhhhhhhhh. Chances are you're reading this because you're in two minds about your dress? We get it, it happens and we're also here to tell you that it's not the end of the world, there is always a fix so keep up those deep breaths and stick with us. We understand that it's always a little daunting to admit you don't like something that you once did, and there is also no shame in changing your mind. Here are a few things you can do if you're just not feeling that dress anymore.

Locate the issue:

Try and pick out the features that you don’t like about your dress to determine if it's fixable or not. Keep in mind that a dress hanging in a wardrobe will look very different to a dress tailored, and fitted to your body. Some questions you can ask yourself are: "Is it that it has too much lace? Is it neckline sitting in the wrong place? Could it be that it's too long and needs a train to reshape the bottom?" Many of these things can be fixed with professional alterations, such as taking out some of the lace details or modifying the neckline. We once met a bride who hated the skirt of her dress so she bought a tulle skirt from another designer, and asked her seamstress to sew her top onto the new skirt. Genius! It's important to note though that there are a few things that can’t be fixed. We hate to tell you but, it is extremely tough to change the shape of a dress or even the finish. For example, if you don’t want a laced or beaded dress anymore, there really isn't much a professional can do. The first step in tackling a dress change is knowing what you don’t like about the dress, so start making a list.

Drown out the noise:

Be mindful that it is 100% YOU, and not your friends and family, that are influencing your decision or how you are feeling. We see this happen time and time again where a bride absolutely loves a dress but feels discouraged about their purchase. It's cool that your bridal party has an opinion, why else are they there with you, right? However, this is your day, your moment, and you're the one wearing this dress. Listen to that gut feeling, follow your instinct and if it truly makes you smile...wear it!

Test run:

Like we mentioned earlier, don't be fooled by a dress on a hanger; a dress is only one part of your entire look so it helps to do a little trial run with hair and makeup, even if you're still not keen on the dress itself. Go as far as creating the look you want on the day, and include your jewelry, shoes, and anything else you'll be wearing to see how it all comes to together. With this approach, you may find that you actually prefer your hair down, or that a red lip is what will add that little Va Va Voom to the dress. Whatever you decide to change, this is the ideal time to experiment. Altering the accessories or your hair or makeup could be the one thing that stands in the way of you loving your dress again.

 

CREDITS: Loves & Wolves Co, Hey Beloved

 

Take a break:

Wedding fatigue is a real thing, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It's that feeling when the sheer sight of one more folded napkin or a baby's breath may send you over the edge. This is the time to take a step back, literally, away from your dress. No more Pinterest-ing wedding looks, no more dress shopping! Think of it as Spring Break, but from all things weddings! This will give you some time to decompress and come back with a clear mind and you'll be able to think it through. Just remember that a simple problem with an easy solution can seem like a mountain when you're too close. Take a breather, and come back.

Exchange policy, literally:

So you bought the dress, and you took it home, and now you're pacing the floor and wearing out the rug in the process. It happens, it's okay. We would advise anyone in this position to either call the place you bought your dress from, to see how flexible they are with exchanges, or to see if they will offer you a discount towards another dress. It is rare but possible that some leniency will be given towards a dress by the same designer. However, we are not promising this will work, as most bridal salons and brands do custom make the dress for you, therefore, there are rarely refunds or exchanges. However, it doesn't hurt to ask...

Sell, sell, sell.

Consigning your dress is a great option for a number of reasons. First and foremost, it can be a lot faster than any other avenue. Secondly, we don't know any brides-to-be who have the time to schedule fittings for other brides in their homes along with the other wedding planning to-dos. Oh and, if you're dropping off your dress to be sold, you can have a quick look through a plethora of other dresses to see if anything catches your eye, as consignment options have great off-the-rack styles! One woman's not-so-high-neckline is another woman's dream dress.

To resell your beautiful wedding dress, please click here for more information and to sign up. For any brides looking to try on and fall in love with any of our beautiful dresses, you can make an appointment here!

Sabiha Datoo-Lalji