The Top Wedding Registry Myths Debunked

Wedding planning is more than just finding the perfect dress. At Our Story Bridal, a luxury bridal consignment boutique, we work with savvy brides everyday and are here to help beyond eliminating the stress of the dress. A wedding registry is the best way to kickstart wedding planning. Our Story Bridal spoke with Laura Desiderio, Director of The Bloomingdale's Registry, who helped debunk some common wedding registry myths.

“I DON’T NEED A WEDDING REGISTRY - EVERYONE ASKS FOR MONEY THESE DAYS.”

“Some couples prefer money for a honeymoon fund or other big purchase but many of your loved ones want to gift you something special,” says Laura. A registry is helpful to both you and your guests for gift-giving events such as an engagement party or wedding shower. Saving up for very special items like a Baccarat Vase or Nespresso ? Add them to your wedding registry. Many stores like Bloomingdale’s offer a discount after the wedding on registry items not purchased.

Partnering with a registry consultant offers additional perks such as an additional 20% off men’s suiting for grooms and women’s dresses to help wardrobe the couple before and on their wedding day. Having a consultant dedicated to your wedding registry is an invaluable resource - they have product expertise, understand the importance of logistics and help ensure everything arrives on time and in pristine condition.

“MY PARTNER AND I ALREADY LIVE TOGETHER AND DON’T NEED ANYTHING ELSE.”

Your home is stocked with everything you need, but chances are it’s a mix of pre-owned, mismatched items or you need more of what you already have. This is the perfect time to upgrade your stainless steel cookware, indulge in luxury bedding, stock up on extra pillows and linens or choose an updated, cohesive style for this new chapter in your life. “Don’t be afraid to involve your partner in building your registry. Many of the grooms I meet with are extremely engaged and have strong opinions on what is included,” Laura revealed.

“I FEEL BAD ASKING MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS TO SPEND A LOT OF MONEY ON ME.”

“Wedding registry guilt is real - we see it all of the time,” said Laura.  “Be thoughtful of people’s budgets and include more items than you think you need at a variety of price ranges.” Your family and friends will appreciate having gift choices at all price points, and it eliminates any awkward situations.

“CHINA AND CRYSTAL ARE SO FORMAL AND JUST FOR SPECIAL OCCASIONS, SO I’M NOT INCLUDING THESE ON MY REGISTRY.”

Fine china and crystal are indicators of quality, craftsmanship and durability. Most of these items can be used everyday and are dishwasher safe. In fact, bone china is stronger than many everyday dinnerware materials. Many heritage brands have modernized their designs with patterns and colors that are simple and sophisticated. “At Bloomingdale’s 59th Street, we have a table we use as a blank canvas. We set it when we’re working with clients and show them how to dress up and down one set of china and crystal for formal occasions and everyday use.”

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“IT’S JUST THE TWO OF US - WE DON’T NEED A 12-PIECE PLACE SETTING.”

It’s likely you’ll have dinner parties, and someday it may not be just be the two of you. The ability to flex up or down easily is something to keep in mind when building your registry. Laura explained the best way to estimate how many place settings one should register for is to count you and your partner and both of your immediate families. This is a great baseline for knowing how many place settings you’ll need.

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“WHAT ARE THE MOST COMMON THINGS COUPLES FORGET TO ADD TO THEIR REGISTRY?”

“Many couples forget to add investment pieces that will last a lifetime, like luggage, which is perfect for an upcoming honeymoon,” Laura shared.  Don’t be afraid to add things you wouldn’t buy for yourself but would love to receive like a Roomba vacuum, an Amazon Echo or a Nest thermostat!

“HOW FAR IN ADVANCE SHOULD YOU CREATE YOUR WEDDING REGISTRY?”

A wedding registry should be completed 6 to 9 months before the wedding or at the same time the Save The Dates are sent. A registry can be a work in progress; many couples begin registering before their engagement party and add to it as the wedding date gets closer.


Interested in creating a wedding registry? Visit The Registry at Bloomingdale’s to create your registry online or book an in store appointment here.

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